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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p style="text-align: left;"><strong>All confusion and division in church life is almost certainly the result of false and demonically-motived wisdom.</strong></p>
<p>Drawing from the wisdom traditions of the Bible, <strong><a class="hov-link-1">James 3:13-18</a><span class="hov-span-1">Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. <span class="v-num">14</span>But if you harbour bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. <span class="v-num">15</span>Such &#8220;wisdom&#8221; does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. <span class="v-num">16</span>For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. <span class="v-num">17</span>But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. <span class="v-num">18</span>Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness (James 3:13-18, NIV).</span></strong> describes two forms of wisdom: demonic and divine. Rooted in narcissistic envy and selfish ambition, demonic wisdom produces disorder and division in church communities. Divine wisdom is rooted in purity of heart and grows from humility and genuine love of others. There is no place here for ego-driven malpractice.</p>
<p>Churches should be ever-vigilant and hold their leaders accountable to the standards of true wisdom:</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness (James 3:17-18 NIV).</strong></p></blockquote>
<p>The whole leadership enterprise, from ministerial training and selection to monitoring and discipline, should be governed by the wisdom insights of James. The shocking thing is that leaders may consider themselves to be both spiritual and wise but actually be in the grip of a soulish and demonic spirit of self-promotion.</p>
<blockquote><p><strong>For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice (James 3:16 NIV).</strong></p></blockquote>
<p>Accountability becomes difficult when churches are established on false models of ministry. Viewed as having special powers of a semi-mystical nature, pastors and leaders are placed on near idolatrous pedestals. Itâ€™s not rocket science to see what kind of person could be attracted to and affirmed by such a leadership position. Ambitious competitiveness in ministry is the very worldly wisdom that James condemns. In this scenario, the servant-leadership model of Jesus is easily left behind.</p>
<p><strong>If ever there was proof of the need for a New Reformation in the church, this is it.</strong></p>
<p>Cronyism and self-interest can be potent factors, with few corrective checks and balances in place. Vested interests must be guarded. Closing-ranks to protect the institution is all too often the default position. Results-based evaluations can cover up malpractice. If a church looks like itâ€™s flourishing, then it must be flourishing, right?</p>
<p>The consequences are devastating, but not always obvious from the outset. The true motivations of a leaderâ€™s heart are only gradually exposed. Congregations are prone to believe platform-based performances. Self-promotion is presented as the promotion of Christ. Manipulative behaviours operate beneath a veneer of benevolence. Ingratiation sets in and the popularity cult is underway â€“ perfect conditions for dominance and authoritarianism to thrive.</p>
<p><strong>Leaders, high on assertiveness and low on servant-hearted humility, soon begin to manifest abuse.</strong></p>
<p>Those who see through the deception may refuse to participate in the charade, but they are soon dealt with. The order is clear. First intimidation, then isolation and finally exclusion. All this can happen with the acquiescence of those who ought to know better, but are too embroiled in the dispute to admit what is really taking place.</p>
<p>When things continue to regress, factions appear. Division sets in, with groups spiritually-warring one against the other. New alliances are struck with those for and those against a particular individual or group in open argument. And, all the while, our enemy rubs his hands in a demonic glee worthy of a mention by C.S. Lewis in his Screwtape Letters. There are no other victors. Church members are hit the worst. Caught in the crossfire, they become so disheartened that they simply vote with their feet. Many find it difficult to trust spiritual leaders after that.</p>
<p>Re-establishing peace in a troubled community will entail deep dependence on God. The only hope is for all concerned to embrace humility and repentance, and to return to the wisdom that is motivated by true spirituality. Then, and only then, disciples of Christ can grow, be fruitful and live healthy lives in a community truly ordered by the Holy Spirit.</div>
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<a class="hov-link-2">Are you involved in a church dispute?</a><div class="hov-div-2"><strong>Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness (James 3:18, NIV).</strong>
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  Those who are presently caught up in a church dispute or division wonder how they should handle the situation. What are the best options available to bring about righteous and peaceful reconciliation?</p> 
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	<li>Reflect deeply and begin with your own heart.</li>
	<li>Are you keeping your own motivations pure and sincere?</li>
	<li>How have you contributed to the problem and what can you do to help resolve it?</li>
	<li>Avoid prejudgments and do not hastily take sides.</li>
	<li>Be prepared to speak up with integrity and without guile.</li>
	<li>Pursue righteousness with grace and compassion.</li>
	<li>Pray constantly for peaceful resolutions that are honest and fair.</li>
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				<div class="et_pb_text_inner"><p><b>Who is wise and understanding among you? Let him show it by his good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. </b><b>14</b><b>But if you harbour bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. </b><b>15</b><b>Such &#8220;wisdom&#8221; does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, of the devil. </b><b>16</b><b>For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. </b><b>17</b><b>But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. </b><b>18</b><b>Peacemakers who sow in peace raise a harvest of righteousness (James 3:13-18, NIV).</b></p></div>
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